Military Matters

by Master Sgt. Dathan T. Hayes
86th Operations Group first sergeant

1st Sergeants’ Corner
Know your limits

Many of us have experienced heartache, pain, joy and sadness — an array of emotions. Some of us are still tormented by decisions we made or the pressures life offers. We all have our limits and our breaking points. It is how we recognize these and what we do about them that are key to overcoming these obstacles.

I have had my breaking points and my limits pushed as well.

I have seen mental health a few times over the course of my career. The first time was in 1995. But, I did not seek their counsel again until 2010 while at Ramstein. I just arrived on base, a first sergeant, and I was going through my second divorce. I knew my limits and needed someone to talk to, so I sought guidance through mental health.

Mental health can sometimes carry a stigma; I didn’t worry about that when I was a young Airman walking in. But as a first sergeant walking in for help, it was scary. I almost walked out. I am glad I didn’t. It was one of the best decisions I have made.

I went for a few months and then the last time I went was when we lost an Airman in the Frankfurt shooting March 2, 2011. I had reached my limits and I knew I needed help.

It made me realize, we all need a person to talk to whether it is family, friends or a professional. I firmly believe the obstacles I had in my life have helped me become a better mother, sister, friend and leader. Let your experiences define your character, but not you. Know your limits and seek help when you need it.

(By Senior Master Sgt. April M. Owen, 786th Civil Engineer Squadron first sergeant)